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Life is full of challenges what I understood till date. Nothing can be achieved unless you dare / fight/struggle for it. Going back to memory lanes when circumstances were not in my favour . I belong to conservative family, where my dad cares more of society than kids and my mom care more of kids than society but she never dared to go against her husband.
I belong to a family where girl birth considered as curse. My mom has to hear a lot because of two girls birth. However my childhood passed and settle in Delhi after my brother birth but life was not easy for me. Daring to speak to my father for my wish,desire was not easy. I want to study more but my grandparents want me to marry after 12th class. I convinced my dad for higher studies but he took a promise that I will not argue when marriage proposal of a less educated guy come. I too agree because I want to do anything for my wish.
Second great task was to do job. I want to fly I want to be independent . Again my father hardcore in his decision no job as in our caste no girl do job. I went on hunger strike and again I convinced my father by saying that after marriage if I need to do job what I will do? I have no experience then my father agreed to it. It was a very tough phase . My father does not allow us to go out after 7pm . He use to sit on stairs when I came home a bit late .I gave interview in central school and then got a job as computer teacher that day my father was very proud of me.
The toughest phase was when I have to dare to speak to my father regarding my love. I swear it was not easy. Love marriage is big Havoc in my family as my masi love marriage was not successful and then it was a shame thing for a girl and family. But it seems like I have decided to break all barriers.
I was not able to gather guts and talk to father where as my love keep on boosting me to talk to my father. When I dare to talk to father I have taken sleeping pills ,I do not know what goes in my mind. I know it is not right. My father seem strict but he loves me a lot. He can read my face , something is wrong or I am hiding something. I does not came out for a day from my room . My father came to my room ask what is wrong. Then I dare to share my heart out ,shown him photo of my love who is my hubby now. Told him about my love, profession, house, caste. He does not reply and leave my room saying complete your studies. I was in dilemma to consider his silence as yes or no. I have to struggle for 3 years to make my father agree . We can run and marry but we never thought to be a reason of shake to our patents. My daring step has open path for my siblings . They do not face problems as I did because after me my parents are happy with my decisions and I am happy in my married life.
My all story revolve around my father . Whenever I take a dare to fulfill my dreams , my father too take a dare to convince his parents. Father always bow to fulfill my dreams . Dare a thon is between father and daughter . Both of us keep on taking dare challenges for good. We both dare to speaks our heart out. No he is no more but he was happy to see me settle happy and successful.
I can say nothing can be achieve without daring to take new path. Success and failure depends on our destiny. It’s my life and I dare to live my life as I want. No regrets for anything till now.
My hubby is my strength who support me in my decisions
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