Relationships between brothers and sisters help to grow!
The relationship between brothers and sisters has lot of complicity, games, rivalry and conflict.
They adore, bicker, admire, ignore each other, and imitate each other, jealousy. Relationships between brothers and sisters are an excellent opportunity to rub against others and to make their place in a group. A real laboratory to learn life in society. Two little logistics of 3 years and soon 9 years, it is not easy to manage every day, but when you see them play and laugh together, its happiness that you forget your tiredness. As an only son, My hubby discover the astonishing complicity that unites brothers and sisters. It is true that the little ones are often in awe of their elders. One only has to see how the babies are scrambling and smiling at the approach of their siblings, sensing that these “small human beings” who look like them and who look like to do some very interesting things, will bring them opportunities to have fun.
It is true that there is often natural and spontaneous complicity in a sibling. As a result, parents are convinced that fraternity implies solidarity and love, but this is not always the case. The jealousy between siblings is an almost inevitable feeling, which must be recognized and learned to defuse. Similarly, you can be brothers and sisters and not have affinities so you are different. In a sibling family, every child has the right to choose the brother or sister with whom he will make an alliance. But a child also has the right to choose not to make a covenant at all. It is very guilty because it does not respond to the parent’s injunction: You are brothers and sisters; you have the obligation to hear and love yourself. Yes, parents dream of a sibling which would be only love, but this will is not enough to create a real understanding.
The Rivalry Between Brothers And Sisters Is Normal
A brother, a sister, is someone with whom you share the same genetic heritage, but especially the same roof and the same parents. And when a senior sees a newborn, the intruder is considered from the outset as a “thief of parental love”. Fraternal jealousy is unavoidable and quite normal. Just read the classic fairy tales like Cinderella to convince you. But feelings of rivalry have positive aspects. Experiencing jealousy and being out of it can be very useful for later social life, especially at school and in the corporate world where competition is raging.
Peer rivalry children to face each other, to measure up to him, to recognize him as a being both close and different, and to gauge his strengths compared to those of others. On the other hand, seeking to attract the attention of parents pushes each child to develop seductive strategies to reinforce the bond that unites him and his parents. It is an excellent booster because each child tries to overcome the other, but especially to exceed his own limits in order to “impress” them.
What is your Sibling stories?
Please do share with me your sibling stories. I love to read your sibling stories.