The Four A’s of Parenting

the four A's of parenting

Being a parent is one of the purest and pristine conditions in the world. Parenting is an art and it is born out of one’s nature, character, and behavior. A good parent is the first and best role model for a child and it is essential to cultivate the good habits and behavior in the children, who grow up as responsible citizens of the society.

Parenting can’t be taught as a whole since it’s a style one should adapt themselves into. It is indeed a psychological process with assistance from the physical activities and efforts which will make you a good parent.

Now let’s take a look at the four A’s of Parenting

#1 Affection

 Every child in the world, every individual in the world deserved to be loved. Especially in childhood the kid is in desperate need of and deserves all love and affection from parents.

The care and affection they receive in their childhood will reflect in their character and behavior in a positive manner. The kid needs to know that he/she is completely safe and feelings like trust, respect, love, gratitude, reverence, care, e.t.c are born out of this affection.

It is true that kids learn a lot from their parents. They will learn how to love other living beings, take care of them, and be disciplined which eventually comes from the affection they receive from their parents.

Being kind and being affectionate is the primary quality of a good parent.

#2 Availability

One of the major problems faced by the new age parents when it comes to effective parenting – The busy schedule. It happens especially when both the parents are working and don’t have enough time to pay attention to their children.

This is closely associated with affection as they are two sides of a coin. The parents can show their love, express their affection, and care by making time to spend with their children.

The lack of personal attention from the parents reflects in the character, attitude, and behavior of the child and most probably in a negative way. Children should be the priority before anything and making sure that you are available for them whenever they need builds a sense of trust, respect, and love between you and your child.

Moreover, a parent’s personal attention cannot be replaced or substituted by anyone else as it is divine and has no alternatives.

#3 Appreciationthe four A's of parenting - appreciation

Appreciation is one of the strongest motivational techniques for an individual. For a child, appreciation is something that they may never forget in their entire life. It is so special and precious for their tiny minds.

If it comes from their parents, the feeling is simply irreplaceable. As a parent, you should learn to appreciate every simple gesture and activity of your kid whenever they do a good thing.

It will encourage them to do such things again and again which cultivates the sense of good habits in them. Every kid yearns for getting recognized, to be appreciated.

The appreciation can be in the form of little rewards too. For instance toffees, toys or favorite food as a reward for doing something good like cleaning their own rooms, finishing coloring a page, doing their own homework, etc.

Such little gestures can be appreciated and the effects of ignoring them will be drastic.

#4 Acceptance

Another important characteristic of a good parent should possess. They need to accept their children for who they are or what they want to be. Many of the parents want to control their children and to an extent, it is a good thing.

Too much control will affect them psychologically and the sense that they are not even accepted by their parents will kill their ambitions and desires.

A parent should know how to direct and guide their child and these are very different concepts and practices from controlling. If they are good at something, encourage and support them for the decisions they make. Make them understand calmly if you feel that they are on the wrong path.

It will leave a void if the child is accepted for what he is everywhere in the society but not in his own home.

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October 28, 2020

24 Replies to “The Four A’s of Parenting”

  1. Jyoti says: November 2, 2020 at 12:58 am

    Yes these fours A of parenting like affection , availability are must .We often forget .Nice post

  2. Mayura Amarkant says: November 2, 2020 at 12:46 am

    These 4 A’s are like the 4 aces and are very impactful. Thank you for sharing.

  3. Sakshi Varma says: November 1, 2020 at 12:25 pm

    Agree with all 4 of your As. I talk around similar lines in my book Raising Capable Children. I believe acceptance is one of the most important requisites of being a parent. Not very easy but important to accept our children for who they are.

  4. Dipika Singh says: November 1, 2020 at 10:58 am

    I absolutely agree with these 4 A. all very inclusive and can’t be altered or changed. A happy family has is a combination of positive parenting and the right attitude.

  5. Ishieta says: November 1, 2020 at 9:36 am

    interesting post and such very important A’s. indeed all of these play an important role in the upbringing of a child. I feel attention and acceptance are key elements which most parents are not able to do currently due to their time constraints and problems.

  6. MeenalSonal Mathur says: November 1, 2020 at 8:25 am

    These are the foundation of the parenting. The most important one to me is the acceptance. When we accept the kids they way they are is a huge hurdle crossed.

  7. Neha Sharma says: November 1, 2020 at 8:20 am

    Very well written, Gurjeet. I agree with all these A’s of parenting which play an important role in a child’s holistic development. As a parent, it is our responsibility to provide all of these to our children.

  8. Harjeet Kaur says: November 1, 2020 at 7:37 am

    Loved the pointers on parenting! All the A’s are important. Acceptance most of all. Parents these days put a lot of pressure on kids and try to live their ambitions through them We should accept the capabilities and choices of the kids and let them bloom.

  9. Judy says: November 1, 2020 at 6:54 am

    truly these are the most important A’s of parenting. I feel appreciating the kid for his or her small achievements is really important.

  10. Hansa Kajaria says: November 1, 2020 at 12:28 am

    Totally agree to all ur 4 A’s. It’s very much important for parents to follow them and raise confident kids.

  11. Kavita Singh says: October 31, 2020 at 11:32 pm

    I agree, all four A’s are important and should be paid attention to. Loved reading it, I am going to share it with my other friends too 🙂

  12. Archana Srivastava says: October 31, 2020 at 10:40 pm

    As a parent of two can’t agree more on this that blending these four ‘A’s appreciation, acceptance, availability, and affection into a parenting style raise the most successful kids for the better tomorrow in terms of, empathy, sensibility, and responsibility.

  13. Gunjan Upadhyay says: October 31, 2020 at 10:35 pm

    Absolutely right, all the As are important, I always ensure I am available for my child and appreciating them for every tiny possible thing. Great post Gurjeet.

  14. Snigdha says: October 31, 2020 at 10:28 pm

    Wow, you have written so beautifully about the four A of parenting. In fact these four A are important in life as well.

  15. Jhilmil Bhansali says: October 31, 2020 at 6:14 pm

    Indeed those 4 A’s are very important while raising conscious children. Acceptance is something I strongly believe in. Thanks for sharing it across!

  16. sonam jain says: October 31, 2020 at 12:46 pm

    those are some great pointers every parent should follow to nurture their relation with the kids.. definently going to be more attentive in practicing the A’s

  17. Mandavi Jaiswal says: October 31, 2020 at 10:26 am

    Appreciation and acceptance are both very important for having a joyful parenting experience, in my view too. Great and heartfelt article

  18. Noor Anand Chawla says: October 31, 2020 at 12:49 am

    I completely agree with you! Parenting thrives on these four basic principles, and we must try to stick with them. I love your family pictures too!

  19. Cindy Dsilva says: October 31, 2020 at 12:45 am

    These are so true. I hope many parents understand that children don’t just grow like plants. Give food and water and that’s all. You do need to give them the 4 As.

  20. Ruchi Verma says: October 30, 2020 at 11:48 pm

    These are really perfect tips for parenting you have shared even I feel appreciation is really very important!!

  21. Surbhi prapanna says: October 30, 2020 at 10:23 pm

    Such an awesome piece of parenting advice you had shared with this post. I agree this all As are so important and specially appreciation means a lot to kids. They feel encourage with this and feel a strong bond with us.

  22. Varsh says: October 30, 2020 at 9:31 pm

    These 4 As indeed are the basis for good parenting. Follow them well and a child will have the most secure environment at home.

  23. Alpana Deo says: October 30, 2020 at 2:46 am

    These four A’s may look very simple but we often overlook them or they go on the back burner with other commitments. But for kids, just being there is more than enough. Their needs are not very big.

  24. Swati says: October 28, 2020 at 4:11 pm

    Love this post.. these are perfect A’s for parenting.

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