Being a parent is one of the purest and pristine conditions in the world. Parenting is an art and it is born out of one’s nature, character, and behavior. A good parent is the first and best role model for a child and it is essential to cultivate the good habits and behavior in the children, who grow up as responsible citizens of the society.
Parenting can’t be taught as a whole since it’s a style one should adapt themselves into. It is indeed a psychological process with assistance from the physical activities and efforts which will make you a good parent.
Now let’s take a look at the four A’s of Parenting
Every child in the world, every individual in the world deserved to be loved. Especially in childhood the kid is in desperate need of and deserves all love and affection from parents.
The care and affection they receive in their childhood will reflect in their character and behavior in a positive manner. The kid needs to know that he/she is completely safe and feelings like trust, respect, love, gratitude, reverence, care, e.t.c are born out of this affection.
It is true that kids learn a lot from their parents. They will learn how to love other living beings, take care of them, and be disciplined which eventually comes from the affection they receive from their parents.
Being kind and being affectionate is the primary quality of a good parent.
One of the major problems faced by the new age parents when it comes to effective parenting – The busy schedule. It happens especially when both the parents are working and don’t have enough time to pay attention to their children.
This is closely associated with affection as they are two sides of a coin. The parents can show their love, express their affection, and care by making time to spend with their children.
The lack of personal attention from the parents reflects in the character, attitude, and behavior of the child and most probably in a negative way. Children should be the priority before anything and making sure that you are available for them whenever they need builds a sense of trust, respect, and love between you and your child.
Moreover, a parent’s personal attention cannot be replaced or substituted by anyone else as it is divine and has no alternatives.
Appreciation is one of the strongest motivational techniques for an individual. For a child, appreciation is something that they may never forget in their entire life. It is so special and precious for their tiny minds.
If it comes from their parents, the feeling is simply irreplaceable. As a parent, you should learn to appreciate every simple gesture and activity of your kid whenever they do a good thing.
It will encourage them to do such things again and again which cultivates the sense of good habits in them. Every kid yearns for getting recognized, to be appreciated.
The appreciation can be in the form of little rewards too. For instance toffees, toys or favorite food as a reward for doing something good like cleaning their own rooms, finishing coloring a page, doing their own homework, etc.
Such little gestures can be appreciated and the effects of ignoring them will be drastic.
Another important characteristic of a good parent should possess. They need to accept their children for who they are or what they want to be. Many of the parents want to control their children and to an extent, it is a good thing.
Too much control will affect them psychologically and the sense that they are not even accepted by their parents will kill their ambitions and desires.
A parent should know how to direct and guide their child and these are very different concepts and practices from controlling. If they are good at something, encourage and support them for the decisions they make. Make them understand calmly if you feel that they are on the wrong path.
It will leave a void if the child is accepted for what he is everywhere in the society but not in his own home.
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